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[quote=Anonymous]Husband and I haven't been getting along for years now. We have decided to stay together for the kids so we essentially cohabitate and support the kids. For some reason my husband never made friends easily. He's done a ton of volunteering in his life but still can't seem to get any friendships going with other men. I have a few friends but their husbands don't know my husband. So now my husband is lonely and trying desperately to fill his free time with various volunteer activities or begging son to hang out with him at times. He had just joined a volunteer group. Usually young people join these type of groups through our place of worship hoping to find prospective marital partners. I tried to tell him that. He went anyway. It turned out to be predominately 20-25 year olds. He's 60. I think he was embarrassed because he came home after he realized that. Tonight the family had plans at a big event at our place of worship. My college aged son wanted to drive around by himself afterwards to catch the fireworks before midnight. We just wanted to go home. My husband was literally begging to tag along with him because he wanted to see the fireworks too. My son said he just wanted to go driving by himself tonight.

My husband has always exhibited emotionally immature behavior. At a Boyscouts event at a pool, he and a bunch of 10 year old boys pushed the troop leader into the pool with his clothes on. My husband was the only adult involved in this prank. He ran a business rather inefficiently because he was too scared to fire low productivity employees. I offered to be office manager to help the business but he refused my help, saying I would just be a "mean" boss. I encouraged him to hire a business consultant to correct some inefficiencies. The business consultant told him that he is too timid with staff and needed to fire some people. The business consultant also gave him a personality test which apparently exposed that he also has a "retaliatory" type of personality. When he feels people are critical of him, he retaliates with mockery, taunting, sarcasm. These are things our family already knew.

I don't really understand what my husband's issue is but he's starting to pressure my son a lot to help fill his lonely time after work and on weekends. My son doesn't like hanging out with him alone but doesn't know how to get this across politely. There seems no way to do it politely.  Advice?[/quote]

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