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[quote=Anonymous]I started dating DH when he was 36; I was 30.

He didn't really see a piece of paper as being important in a relationship. He had a ltr before me. But, I told him one day I wanted to be married, even if it wasn't with him.  I was up front that this was important to me.

He said he knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me about 6mo into dating, but he didn't tell me this until we got engaged after 18 months together because he said he didn't want to scare me away.

I had some self esteem issues I needed to work on in my 20s. And actually, DH helped me with some of my issues.  I was not ready mentally/emotionally for any serious relationship before DH.  I also wanted to be financially independent before I got married.  We combined our finances after we got married, so it wasn't that I wanted my own bank account, but rather, that I did not want to be dependent on a man.  I saw that play out with my sisters/mother, all who got married in their 20s. They were never financially independent and that made them dependent on their husbands. I was never going to put myself in that position.

It was a combination of timing and finding the right person.[/quote]

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