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[quote=Anonymous]My sister and I are two years apart and live 1,000 miles away. I love her dearly, but this dynamic we've had for a decade plus at this point is really wearing me down. Whenever she's going through a life stress -- job, relationship, kids -- I'm always here to listen and support and visit and help her, and in those moments she is always so appreciative. "Oh sis, you're my rock," "I couldn't do this without you," "you're the most important person in my life," etc. In those phases she's texting and calling all the time, and I visit whenever I can.

But the moment that her situation gets better, my phone calls and texts don't get returned, plans get canceled, and our relationship immediately becomes distant. Our mother recently let slip that sister had spent four days visiting a friend who lives in my same city. Sis had apparently told mom that I was "too busy" to meet up, which mom was sort of chewing me out about. I was aghast - Sis had never told me that she was visiting my city at all, and I certainly was never too busy to meet up with her. Heck, I would have dropped any plans in order to get some time with Sis.

I consider her [i]my[/i] closest friend, but it's really bothering me that I'm only needed situationally, and now I'm being essentially lied about. Part of me wants to call her out on this, but at the same time, my long experience with her is that those kinds of conversations with her frequently cause more pain than they're worth.[/quote]

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