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[quote=Anonymous]I wonder if anyone else feels like this. I live a quiet life in a huge city, and am thick in perimenopause. I’m not overweight or unattractive. I am 50 and pretty grey. I am not depressed. I’m not a provocateur. I’m average. I’m married and wear my rings.

That’s just a backdrop to some disconcerting shit that’s happened lately, including today, where men my age and up, some who admittedly look nuts but others seem stable, go out of their way to be absolutely hostile. In the city a couple of weeks ago a man barked at me to get out of the way on a sidewalk in front of his gf, and he did a stutter step when he saw my tween girl and husband with me. I’ve lived in big cities most of my life, I walk fast, and I was not in the way.

Today, during the heat wave, an obese older than me sweating strange man came into the grocer and barked at me and waved his hands before the automatic doors even closed on him, “move, I need to get in there” (tight space with the citrus). It was startling and I said I’m getting what I need - my phone was in my hand with my list. He immediately called me an ahole and the c word, on and ON in full view of male employees, who looked on and later said something apologetic. It was just so disconcerting.

I expected for the world to not see me. I expected less to be seen and mistreated for existing. I was clueless about this. Maybe no one reading feels like this but if you ever feel down with this kind of encounter, I do too and I’m sorry if you’ve experienced what I have![/quote]

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