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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anxiety.

Normal but also something you should address. Keeping her in situations where she needs to face it is good. She is acting silly because she doesn't want to look like she cares a lot and failed. She wants to look like she purposely goofed. Its a defense mechanism to her need for perfection.[/quote]

Any tips on how I can help her? Right now I tell her mistakes are okay and I tell her mistakes are good, that’s how she learns. I tell her to make spectacular mistakes and be unapologetic, etc. so far, it’s not working… [/quote]

For my DD, I would explicity identify the feelings for her, as in "you start talking nonstop at the start of a party because you're anxious.  That's what that feels like for you in that situation. You should practice counting to 10 if you realize that you're the only one talking."  Then when I dropped her off at the party, I'd say, "don't forget to count to 10."  I know it sounds minor to say she was talking nonstop, but it was very extreme, almost manic.  If OP's DD starts acting goofy as soon as she's criticized, something similar would work too to break the habit of immediately clowning around.[/quote]

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