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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She will be hurt. Not because you ar mean but because she has unrealistic expectations and built something up in her head that was not based on what could happen. 
You have a calm conversation. One of many. Ask her what she envisions her daily life to be. And share what your daily life is like and will be. She will be upset and lay out guilt etc. Inwould als her what she thinks your dad will do when she's gone. And who is taking care of him. I think this will be so much worse for him if he is a typical older man. My FIL can't do anything without my MIL. He can't cook a meal, get his meds, do laundry. Anything. [/quote]

This. She will be hurt. You have to tell her anyway. It's her fault for being so unrealistic. You have to tell her very clearly what times you can spend with her, and then sit and watch her cry or freak out or yell or whatever, and do not give in. It is the only way. Just sit quietly, don't repeat yourself or try to console her.

Do not give her a key to your place. Do not help her move. You need to be realistic and clear in what your actions communicate because she will not listen to your words. [/quote]

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