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[quote=Anonymous]The key here is Communication. You need to sit down with your husband and figure out what works for you all. Are you both okay with having your mom over for dinner 2-3 nights a week. Can she come have a Sunday morning brunch with you. How often do you want the kids to be spending time at her place. You need to figure out your boundaries and then, before she signs a lease, you need to sit down with her and have a kind discussion. Tell her you are thrilled she wants to be closer to your all for part of the year. But let her know that you already have an established routine with work, the kids, and activities and that while you adjust it when she visits for a week, you will not be able to do this when she is living down the street. Tell her that you would love to have her over for dinner 2-3 times a week. Pick specific days so there is no confusion. That you are happy to take her up all of the kids sporting events, school activities, I.e. but that your immediate family will also need time to bond together. The kids need structured homework time, activity time, I.e. let her know how happy you are that she wants to spend more time with you all but let her know that you have an established routine that works for your family and that you are happy to include her for (insert # of dinners). I know friends who have moved older parents into their homes, and those who go continue to have a great relationship with their parents, set clear expectations. Good luck! [/quote]
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