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[quote=Anonymous]"planning therapy soon?" You use the language of therapy, or at least online therapies, like "hysterical bonding"... Try simply deciding. It's so much neater. Do you want to be with this person or not? You clearly recognize that there's post-infidelity mood swings and clinging, but that's not actual love or even attraction. Do you truly like this person? Want to do the work of loving them? Feel like you trust their love for you? If all three of those aren't absolute yes, back way the heck off and decide what you want. If you need a therapist to help you figure that out, get one, but IME so much of "therapy" is just paying someone to listen to shite you could've written in a journal for free. You already know if you want to do the work to make this work or not, and it sure sounds like an "or not". Let your hall-pass-having separated spouse do what you've agreed and you go do your work on your feelings about it. Control the one person you can: yourself.[/quote]
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