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[quote=Anonymous]Op don't listen to idiots saying you should have let your child do whatever they wanted and risk themselves and everyone else they came in contact with during a global pandemic of a novel virus. Many people had a very hard time adapting their behavior because it was just too much. And everyone is still dealing with some form of trauma from what we all went through, including yourself and your daughter.

You did the right thing. Your job is to keep your family safe. The right decisions are often not "fun".

Your daughter is struggling with what she went through, and that's understandable. The blame lies on the virus itself, not on you. But it's much easier to take it out on you.

Some time, space, and maturity will help. At 22 I was very angry with my parents for many different things. Now at 42 I understand exactly why I was so upset with them, but I also understand where they were coming from much better. And I prioritize our relationship, so I've chosen to move past the things that were really difficult for me about how I was raised. As best I can.

I still don't agree with decisions that were made. But I know they thought they were making the best decisions they could at that time.

It's ok to have phases where you aren't as close to your daughter. It will ebb and flow over time as you both grow and mature and get to know each other as adults.

If every teen had a parent who cared enough to make the hard and unpopular decisions when necessary, we'd be in a much better place than we are today.

Give yourself grace for doing the very best you could in a very difficult situation. Give her grace for going through a very difficult time during very difficult years.

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