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[quote=Anonymous]I have young kids.  My two closest friends  (they are also close friends) have had a few very difficult years when it comes to getting and staying pregnant.  One friend has been unable to get pregnant and has been told the chances aren't good.  This friend has withdrawn a lot from me and sort of made a point of doing it, though she has not acknowledged it to me and I haven't raised it with her.  The other friend lost her son in her 8th month.  She was due within weeks of my youngest.  This friend has needed space from me and my children, on occassion, but has made clear that she wants to be involved in my life, and vice-versa, even though it is difficult for her sometimes.

I'm at a loss as to how to handle this situation.  I feel so terribly guilty and self-conscious, almost, that I have two healthy kids.  I care very deeply for both of these friends, whomI have known since childhood.  I try to reach out, make plans to do things without kids, hear about their lives, etc., but I still feel this huge distance between me and them. I know that this situation is about them, not me, but I do feel sad and I'd hate to lose either of these friends.  What can I do to protect these friendships?

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