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[quote=Anonymous]I am a second-generation daughter to an immigrant mom who is now 81. I am one of 3 daughters and the only daughter that lives locally in MD. The relationship with my mom and sisters is not the best due to various cultural and SES issues. I am the one with the most financial resources while also carrying a large load of encumbrances (private secondary and college kids).  My mom lives alone and is starting to show signs of dementia and confusion. I just finished helping her unravel an MVA insurance violation on her vehicle, because she didn’t realize the insurance lapsed. (And yes I explained to her that she might want to stop driving and she refuses)

I could use some advice on planning her affairs gradually.  However, my mom is very passive and doesn’t directly share her plans, I am thinking she wants us to ask her to come live with us. My gut says not a good idea, but culturally the guilt of putting her in a facility is weighing on me.

I have told her based on the circumstances surrounding her car insurance issue, that she should make one of us POA and I don’t care if it’s not me. I send her videos and research info on the process, she says ok and that she wants to designate me, but keeps coming to me to put out all her”fires” and not making progress on starting the planning process. So I am not even sure she would want to talk to an attorney, she is being stubborn. What do I do?[/quote]

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