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[quote=Anonymous]I am realizing that I married an emotionally abusive man (DARVO king, manipulative, etc) after being raised by an emotionally abusive mother, and finally I see that this will never change and that I need to leave.

What’s made this incredibly difficult is that the abuse from both mother and husband have been mixed with unreliable, manipulative “care.” I have questioned my sanity so many times. I know I am not perfect and have worked hard to own my role. I am now finally able to see past the fog and understand that the abuse will never stop even if I manage to become perfect.

I have 2 kids, thank GOD a good income, but I am struggling with how to create a support system for myself when the key people I have been entangled with have ultimately just been using me with no regard for me.

I have a plan to divorce, but how do I interact with the outside world now socially? I live in a relatively small and socially conservative community. Will I ever be able to surround myself with people who are relatively trustworthy? How do I even start? I feel so alone.

Yes I am going to get therapy, but I know lots of people in therapy, and let’s be real, it’s not a complete solution. I need to supplement with other strategies. If anyone else has been through this and understands what I mean, I would love to hear how you did it! [/quote]

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