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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a 43 year old woman and have only a few acquaintances/casual friends and no close friends. I've found it very hard to make good friends and have been trying for 10 years without much luck.

I am always the initiator and invite acquaintances/new acquaintances to do things a lot.  What I've noticed is that women are happy to accept my invitations but never invite me to do anything.  I can't remember the last time another mom or female friend invited me out for coffee, a walk, or anything.  I usually invite other women to get together about once a month or so, to do something like brunch, a walk, coffee, and I wait a few months in between invitations with the same person.  In other words, if I invite Jen for lunch in March, I'll wait until June to invite her for coffee next.  I also don't get invited to birthday parties for friends or holiday celebrations.  I feel invisible and overlooked.  If I didn't reach out and do all this inviting, no one would reach out to me and I would be friendless.

[b]I feel that the problem is that other women think I'm nice enough,[/b] but don't think of me as someone they would make the effort to reach out to.  [b]I feel like I have plenty in common with these other moms/women, and I feel like our conversations go well.[/b]  I'm not sure how I can fix this problem and therapy has been no help.  Any advice?[/quote]

What you feel is irrelevant to answer that question. You have to look at what THEY feel. Have they told you that your are nice and that they enjoy spending time with you? 
If they don't reciprocate, it is obviously because they don't enjoy being around you as much as you think they do.

I would say that you are picking the wrong people to be friend with. 
But because you mentioned that this is recurring, the problem may be you. There could be something with your personality that most people don't like. A therapist should be able to help you identify it. Find a better therapist.
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