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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a 43 year old woman and have only a few acquaintances/casual friends and no close friends. I've found it very hard to make good friends and have been trying for 10 years without much luck.

I am always the initiator and invite acquaintances/new acquaintances to do things a lot.  What I've noticed is that women are happy to accept my invitations but never invite me to do anything.  I can't remember the last time another mom or female friend invited me out for coffee, a walk, or anything.  I usually invite other women to get together about once a month or so, to do something like brunch, a walk, coffee, and I wait a few months in between invitations with the same person.  In other words, if I invite Jen for lunch in March, I'll wait until June to invite her for coffee next.  I also don't get invited to birthday parties for friends or holiday celebrations.  I feel invisible and overlooked.  If I didn't reach out and do all this inviting, no one would reach out to me and I would be friendless.

I feel that the problem is that other women think I'm nice enough, but don't think of me as someone they would make the effort to reach out to.  I feel like I have plenty in common with these other moms/women, and I feel like our conversations go well.  I'm not sure how I can fix this problem and therapy has been no help.  Any advice?[/quote]

Take a closer look at your husband and his personality.  He may likely be off-putting and the reason why you're not getting more invitations.  It's his fault, not yours.[/quote]

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