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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If she’s your close friend, why can’t you be direct the next time she brings it up. If she said she’s being iced out then you give her the same matter of fact example you gave us.  Tell her it’s hard to approach her when she stands like this (show her) because people don’t want to interrupt what looks like a serious conversation.  Try standing like this (show her) to indicate you are open to talking to anyone. [/quote]

Well I did bring it up- I said that her friend’s shoulders box me out and she doesn’t make eye contact, smile, say hi or even turn in the direction of anyone trying to join the conversation. And she locks eyes with my friend so I think my friend just goes along with it not to be rude. When I brought it up she seemed to dismiss it because her point of view was she was being left out by others, but this happens when it’s just the 3 of us and not more friends. Should I bring it up again and explain how bad it is? Or wait for an opportunity again in the moment and say loudly to my friend (Kate) directly “Kate- can I join your conversation?” I know this sounds insane and unbelievable that it’s this hard to just join but it actually is just impossible. [/quote]

I think you should ask your friend to help by purposefully engaging with you and others while that other woman is there. While trying not to be rude, your friend is feeding into the situation. You both need to take steps to make sure everyone is involved in the conversation. Your friend needs to accept that this will take work. You are all not doing it to be mean. You are trying to make sure everyone has a good time.[/quote]

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