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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ha ha! I think we suffer from overthinking and overcaring, OP.

My parents eat next to nothing because they're super health nuts and can't find "healthy-enough" foods over here in the States. I agonize that they're not getting adequate nutrients, and I run around the Whole Foods and trawl Amazon trying to find things that might pass muster.

Perhaps you're also projecting other causes of stress (work? their long stay?) on this food issue. Tell them they need to shop and cook their own meals.

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I am beyond stressed but the food bit is a real issue. They can easily eat a whole loaf of bread for breakfast. They each eat as much as two grown adults. It's actually crazy. The issue this trip is they used to drive, my dad would sometimes grocery shop, my mom would cook. This time my mom is very physically limited and my dad is scared to drive. They say they want to help and "will eat anything" but they really don't and won't. As for Uber, ordering out...I sent my ds to buy lunch with them today but it is also all extremely costly.[/quote]

PP you replied to. Wow, that's actually not healthy. The constant eating plus the inability to care for themselves looks like cognitive decline, OP. Are they so stressed at being outside of their usual environment without their usual activities that they're bored and eating their feelings? What happens when you tell them you cannot shop and order expensive takeout all the time, and that they have to eat less? Like, in the evening, show them the breakfast stuff they can eat the next day: half a loaf between them, butter, jam, one egg each. Would they abide by that or would they eat more?

I would do my best to not cater to their helplessness, like making them coffee, but you're the one who can best sense whether they have really lost the ability or whether they can do it if you're not there. Maybe if you put instant coffee powder on the table and they just needed to hit the boil button on the kettle?

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