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[quote=Anonymous]Yesterday we hosted a small birthday party at a park for our DD8. She invited five of her classmates. One of them has dietary needs that we even purchased special food to accommodate (as communicated about with the mom.) Most of these girls have siblings and I was very clear in my invite WHO was invited, and I specified that I wanted to keep it small so I could more easily keep tabs on the girls.

Last to arrive was classmate Mary. Mary has two sisters, Bo, 6, and Peep, 2. Mom asked if I would kind terribly if Bo stuck around for the party, too, and reluctantly I agreed. All was well until the end of the party when the parents started arriving for pickup. I had made little favor bags, including one for DD. When Bo became the 6th party goer, I asked DD if she minded giving Bo her favor, promising we’d get another, and she didn’t care at all. But when Mom arrived with Peep, and Peep started whining about not getting a favor, Mom pretty much took it out on me! Asking if I was sure I didn’t have more, she even started digging though trash looking for… I don’t know, disposed favors? She asked me no fewer than three times if I was sure I didn’t have more. This whole ordeal went on for like ten minutes, and she kept having this dialog with the 2yo about how Larla (my DD) didn’t have a party favor for her, how Larla’s mommy didn’t have a party favor for her, how sad it was there wasn’t a favor for her. I don’t like to placate this sort of behavior but I wanted her to leave so I could clean up, so I offered a balloon thinking that might help, but Mom didn’t want to “deal with a balloon”.

I can’t stop thinking about it. I’m like shocked, but not surprised, I guess, that a parent would not even be so rude, but also greedy? and not know how to shut down a child asking for something that isn’t theirs. No other parent who arrived to pick up with a sibling said a thing about favors for their other kids. Did I screw up? Is this a thing? If not, what would you have said? I wish I would have had a clever comeback.[/quote]

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