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[quote=Anonymous]If you're a white family and her parents don't want her dating, I don't think you meeting them will change their mind.  It's a prohibition that has nothing to do with how nice the potential date and family might be.

Maybe your son is only lightly romantically interested and this girl will remain a friend.  Or possibly, she will be allowed to date later in high school.

I would suggest to my son that he not intensify this friendship.

Many kids go to dances in groups without 1:1 dating.  That is very normal.  It would be best if they met up at dances under these circumstances.

The late night Facetiming could become a flashpoint.

Also be aware that Apple is very casual about absorbing family members into groups.

I sometimes (but not always) see texts and pings coming into my husband's iPhone on our Mac desktop.  It's some sort of IT gremlin that we haven't fully troubleshot.  Tell your kid not to send pics of people to this girl or to receive them.  If this girl gets found out, it will just add fuel to the fire.

I did once have to ask my son to give me his phone because of a conflict between kids at school that got reported to me by a counselor.  I normally do not monitor his communications in any way.  I told him that he was losing his privacy privileges because the school had gotten involved.  I reviewed things for myself and concluded there was not an issue of concern.  That allowed me to have an accurate conversation with the school.

My point in relaying the above is that your son should realize now that any "evidence" of this relationship could be reviewed at some point by adults.  And it should not make things worse beyond just the fact that the kids are communicating and view themselves as dating.[/quote]

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