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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP. Its hard. I would start by validating - it sucks to not get something you wanted - sorry.[b] I wouldn't make her go the party of her friend [/b]or otherwise tell her its fine - its a bummer for her and she can be upset. She can even say she wants to quit theater - you should say it's up to you but if you love, you should keep going

I have a kid in musical theater and its a hard business.  You have to accept that you will get way too many rejections.

One thing I used to say to my kid is that Brad Pitt is not in every movie - that would be insane. Pick an actress and use that example - you can't do everything but something will work out and some won't and that's the deal with auditions. It might not be for her but if she wants do it, there will be more no than yes.

I do think therapy, if she is ok with it, is a good idea to explore the idea of whether she is cut out for the rejections or not and get some strategies, but you can help her with that too.

The people I know that quit are not the worst theater kids, they are the kids that have trouble with the competition.... its hard thing and i couldn't do it, but some kids can.[/quote]

Disagree strongly.  The friend didn't do anything wrong, and in life you need to learn how to be happy for others' success and help them celebrate--and the birthday party isn't even remotely related to the theatre issue.  She's 15/16, plenty old enough to find enjoyment in the happiness of her friends.[/quote]

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