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[quote=Anonymous]Is it normal for the male partner to struggle with the postpartum period?  My fiance and I got pregnant accidentally, and he was 1000% committed to keeping the baby and staying together. I was the one who was questioning if we were ready and felt very much in a state of shock for the beginning of my pregnancy. Part of my fears/questions were allayed by how steady he always was and the fact that he seemed so certain that he wanted to do this together.  Anyway, now we've had the baby and he just seems so overwhelmed. The baby is up crying quite a lot, and I know my partner is sleep deprived and a bit exhausted. But the other day he basically started crying and saying how he was "never sure" he wanted to be with me, and basically that he doesnt feel ready to be a dad and he feels like his life is over. I am resentful because I feel like he should have told me all of this months ago, and frankly shocked that he seems so unable to handle the changes of having a child. It's been hard on me as well, and I really want him to be my "rock", but it feels like he is kind of flailing out and cant function as well. I feel like he makes excuses to be out of the house or find other things to do to avoid the diaper changes and baby duties, and I am really starting to resent him. Is this a normal stage of relationships?[/quote]

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