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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not a SAHM but I've seen plenty of posts from SAHMs on here saying they would love their DHs to pitch in with household help and be more of an "involved parent."

I think you are being very reductionist.[/quote]

How so?  I think you have your head in the sand.  I think these women chose a traditional gender breakdown and now they want to have their cake and eat it too.  All the while snarking away at WOHM's and making judgment calls about their commitment to their children.  What they don't get is that we are sharing the load with husbands who respect the fact that we have careers, too.  And that as wives and mothers it pisses us off when our husbands are treated like pansies for wanting flexibility in their work, too.[/quote]?

Well, I hate to burst the bubble but I'm a SAHM with a very involved DH, who actually RESPECTS me...can you believe it!? Even though I "only" stay home. We treat each other with love and respect and we both value each other. We just decided that instead of paying someone else to watch our kids while they were small I'd do it. He would be a great SAHD, but he makes significantly more money. He is in a higher paying field than I am trained in, but I will return to work once our children are in elementary school.

Why are you holding onto the antiquated idea that all SAHM's believe in some 50's ideal of gender values? Oh I get it...in your worldview you can't possibly put aside a career for a few years, male or female, to take care of children and still be worthy of respect. On DCUM you either put ambition above all else, or you are an anti-feminist.
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