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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do agree that a gender traditionalist wife and mom sort of puts her DH in a box if he wants to be more flexible, share the income-earning, and share the time with the kids:

Wife: "No, no, really, honey, I got it, you just go to work.  I'll do everythign else."

DH:  "Umm, but I want to see the kids more than just late at night and on weekends?  Can I chaperone some field trips?  Maybe we can go 1/2 and 1/2?"

Wife:  "NO!  I don't want to work outside the home!  You just go to work and stay there until I tell you it's time to come home for your hot dinner!"

DH: (Sad) "Oh. . okay. . ."  :([/quote]

Well, I'm the OP, and while I hear what you are saying, I think these women are generally married to men who are gender traditionalists themselves.  So I'm not really sure your scenario rings true.

More to the point the NPR piece points out that men who have to drop everything and leave work to pick up a sick child from daycare/school, or who requests a day off to chaperone a field trip, is perceived as not committed to his job and "soft."  Now that obviously doesn't happen as often in a more progressive region like DC, but it happens.  Go talk to some working dads across this country (I know many) and ask them.  They'll tell you it's true.

My point is that the people who are hardcore traditionalists and perpetuate these 1950's attitudes contribute to the culture that makes it difficult for modern men to be treated seriously in their careers AND be committed, involved fathers.  And I think it's a problem and that the judgmental, conservative folks who look down their noses at two-earner households who are equal partners and share the load are dinosaurs who just need to go away already.  Hopefully the tide will turn once all the fossilized Baby Boomers finally move out of the office and into the old folks' home.[/quote]

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