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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you! We are not in DC but appreciate the advice.

I guess my question - what is language to push someone to practice who claims they don't want to or actually doesn't want to? It's a power struggle at this point so I think she thinks if she practices, we win and she loses. That's not the framing I'm going for here but not sure if there is a better way to approach. [/quote]

Various parents have done it different ways. You can pay her to practice, or bribe her in various ways with little treats and gifts. Or you can just say: "from now on, violin is like all your other chores, and I expect 15 min of practice daily. You will not get your usual privileges (money, outings with friends, driving around for stuff, screentime) if you don't do it."

My 15 yo daughter has been playing for more than 10 years, and I just said, this is something we do every day. It needs to become routine, like brushing teeth. So I remind her every day, and she waffles a bit, but she always ends up practicing. Sometimes when she's tired or very busy, it's only a few minutes. Sometimes before auditions and recitals, it's more than an hour, and she does several practices a day. I always make sure to praise the effort, not the achievement, and at the end of every audition or recital, we get a little treat.
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