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[quote=Anonymous]No, this is not normal. Sounds like it’s time to get back into therapy. You say you tried it - how long? How many therapists did you try?

On one hand, you have a legitimate gripe. I’m a 5’10” woman, and I love being tall, but 6’3” does move you from “tall” to “whoa” - I’ve met several women my height and one who is 5’11”, but besides seeing the women’s basketball team around campus in college, have never really met a woman as tall as you. Combine being way outside the usual height range with some negative physical side effects like pain, and I can really see why you dislike being so tall.

But, by age 35, you should have found some coping mechanisms to make this emotionally manageable for you (as it’s obviously never going to change). Even people who, for example, have to get a leg amputated, after an adjustment period, are able to move on and live happy, well adjusted, full lives in a wheelchair. And at the end of the day, you’re just… tall.

It feels to me just based on what you’ve written here, that you’re using your height as a scapegoat/excuse for any other problem - being thin (not actually related! Plenty of fat dudes over 6’3”!), depression, sensitivity, lack of confidence, and even negative self talk about your personality (that you “should” have a dominant personality to “match” your height, which is… not a thing).

Feels like a good therapist would help you push beyond “I don’t like being tall” to help you admit “I’m not happy with who I am,” a very common therapy complaint, and help you find a path forward with either behavioral changes or finding acceptance. [/quote]

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