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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you all for your advice.  
I'm confident in our relationship and I just am in no rush to get married.   If it happens, great, but I've just never been a wedding/marriage person. As one PP noted, it makes it easier for the guy to pull a "I'm outta here"- I get that, but that wouldn't happen.  And if it did, so be it.

That being said: In my heart, I want a baby.  In my mind, we need to wait.  Get my act together and our 'ducks in a row', as they say here on DCUM.[/quote]

Good for you, OP.  PP 10:34 again.  Although it matters less now, when you have a child, you might want to consider going for a courthouse marriage.  The state of Maryland has entrenched in law over 330 different laws that grant rights to married couples that are not necessarily granted to unmarried common-law marriages like yours.  Among those include the right to hospital visitation should either of you become hospitalized, the right to make certain legal decisions for the other including decision making rights for your children.  If you are not married, the parent who doesn't share the same last name with the child may not have full rights to the child including the ability to direct care for the child, the ability to take the child over state lines (in certain cases), even the right to custody of the child.  All of these are extreme cases, but there are many, many situations where the protection of marriage can make a huge difference in both your care for each other and your care for your child.  So, if and when you are ready to have a child, consider getting married for the legal issues, even if you don't need it, in general.[/quote]

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