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[quote=Anonymous]That would be ethically wrong.

He can't help himself, OP. You're just going to force him to spend all his money, and he would rightly resent you for it, since you're the one ordering the tutoring, but not the one paying for it.

You didn't say whether he was medicated. Meds for ADHD are like glasses for people who can't see. There is absolutely no point in doing all the other stuff of you don't liberate some neurotransmitters. He needs the meds to learn how to learn. Once he's spent several years on meds, and has integrated strategies for studying and organizing his time and life, then, possibly, he could taper off and continue on his merry way.

If he's optimally medicated, then the coach is perhaps not the right fit. My son has severe ADHD and we could not hire a coach - he needed one all the time, every single day, and especially in the morning and evening, outside of business hours. We parents were his coaches 24/7.

But the bottom line is that you cannot make him care. If he's optimally medicated, has all the right coaches and support... if he doesn't want good grades, and doesn't see the point if going to college, you cannot manufacture that out of thin air. But you can put the fear of God in him that people without college degrees are statistically more likely to struggle financially.
And you'll have to show him what struggles actually means, in concrete terms.

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