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[quote=Anonymous]Goof for you for wanting to wait until you have a more stable situation before having a child. It's not fair to a baby to bring it into a world where the adults don't have their act together. One other thing to consider: having a baby tanks your career planning and promotion opportunities for years because you can't put extra effort into your job without taking away from the baby.

And I'm going to sound like a traditionalist (I'm not), but you really should be married before you have kids if you want to try to provide the most stable environment for them. Babies are seriously hard work (much harder than you'd think after caring for kids for 8 years, trust me), and even the best married relationships are tested by the challenges, a relationship with less commitment would be too easy for the guy to say "I'm outta here" when the going gets tough.

You are still plenty young! I also really wanted to have kids starting at about 28, but for financial reasons, we didn't start trying until I was over 30. I got pregnant with no problems at that time, most women do. Work really hard these next two years at building your finances (work extra jobs, save every penny and don't spend frivolously) and seeing about committing to your boyfriend and deciding if you want to be with him and partner with him to raise a person for the rest of your life.[/quote]

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