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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know what “pretty much decided” and “may” actually mean, but don’t worry about the vacation yet (it sounds like a distraction to avoid thinking about the harder things). As soon as you have actually figured out what you will do and specifically how it will impact her, then tell her shortly before she would notice any impacts and be prepared to talk about how she will be affected. What to do about the vacation will depend on the timing of this more important conversation.[/quote]
Sorry, I guess that was confusing!

We are currently in a silent separation of sorts. DH travels a lot for work and has been sleeping in our basement after DD goes to bed. It’s a trial and she may not even need to know, if we reconcile. So far, it’s been 8 months and she has no idea. I’m giving it until 12 months (September) to decide if one of us will move out and we will proceed with divorce, or if we will reconcile. We booked the vacation before we decided to trial separate. [/quote]

Are you getting along well enough to go on vacation together? That would be the big question for me. If the answer is no, I wouldn't do it - why put anyone through that.

If the answer is yes, I guess I'd be inclined to do it. But also I'd want to know why you are considering divorce? Not challenging you on your own life - you know it better than anyone.[/quote]

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