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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have noticed throughout my kids sports, a common topic that parents ridicule is when a family decides to move their child to a different club. It is apparently seen as "letter chasing" or "leaving because they werent getting playing time rather than working on improving".

We are looking to move to play with a new coach who sees alot of potential in our child. This is at a neighboring soccer club at the same level. I dont see why we would stay with a club/coach who thinks our child is no good at the sport, and benches them for long stretches of the game (this is our 4th season with the club). How is that fun for our child?

And to say that our child just isnt good enough - we have all seen teams that are full of coach's friends and their kids who undeservingly get all the playing time and best positions.

It also seems odd that just because a parent chose 'Club A' when their child was 8 years old - they are now expected to remain there for the next decade? I also dont see the logic in convincing our child to work even harder - just to help a coach and players who take them for granted win more games.

Am I missing something before we make the switch?
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In the club volleyball world, the hate tends to come when the top players on a team leave to go to a more competitive club. I've always felt like any animosity toward the player/family that leaves for a stronger team is exactly what you suggested - the team left behind is weaker and the parents don't like the fact that their child is now on a team that wins less. The idea that this is some kind of betrayal or lack of loyalty has always seemed ridiculous to me, especially at clubs where returning players sometimes fail to make a team from one season to the next. Do what's best for your kid and don't worry too much about all the noise.[/quote]
I am not buying this. We are in the second season of club volleyball and we've seen players leaving for better teams. Without giving away too many details, one of our players ended up on one of the top teams in the region. We do understand why she made the move and we are happy for her playing at a level where she deserves to play. The girls are still friends and chat every once in a while. We only met the other parents at one tournament (they are in a different tournament circuit now), but we were supportive of the move they decided to make. We would have done the same thing if we had options (but my DD could not make a team in any better club). We do win less than last year, but it is the fault of the new team, not the fault of the players who left. [/quote]
I wrote the post you quoted. I didn’t mean to suggest that every kid who switches to another club gets treated poorly by their old club or teammates, but have absolutely seen it happen. I’ve also heard crazy stories about kids considering switching clubs and club directors confronting them pretty aggressively about it making borderline threats that they would undermine their college recruiting opportunities and things like that. But you are correct - in many (maybe most?) cases both players and parents can remain friends. [/quote]

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