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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Her misery is most likely caused by her circumstances and grief over the loss of the life she once had. Find out more about the place where she is and see what activities you think might be a match. Every move can cause decline and [b]it's a common story that the dutiful adult child swoops in to rescue mom with a move to a new place[/b] or even takes in mom only to find mom still remains miserable. Medication may help with the adjustment and trying to make new friends.[/quote]

So what then are the alternatives? My mom is currently 'living' in her home where she wants to remain. I say 'living' as she is confined to her lift chair all day, wearing a diaper, only risking using her walker to get to her bedroom each night. She falls constantly but thankfully has not broken anything. Yet. She adamantly refuses any in-house aide assistance despite having the resources. What are the alternatives in the future?[/quote]

It's awful when they are stubborn, isn't it? We found residential much better even though they complain incessantly during the adjustment. The social interaction, eating in a dining room with others, activities-make a difference. When they adamantly refuse services it's really tough-been there. If they are cognitively capable, our experience is they are allowed to make really poor decisions as long as they don't put other lives at risk. We did find with one parent medication helped a ton with being open to help and adjusting, but it was a huge ordeal to get there and the doctor had to use therapeutic lies to convince. I find those with the most mental health issues are often the ones who stigmatize getting help the most. I think the doctor went the "you are so special and unique route"...most people go on x dose, but you just need a tiny bit because x, y,z. He basically gave her a normal starting dose and normal regular dose as she worked up, but she needed to hear she was superior to anyone else who needs meds and was on a much lower dose.[/quote]

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