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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL has started to monitor how often my husband and I communicate with my SIL and her husband. This has led to her trying to micromanage the relationship between her adult children. For example, she'll instruct my husband to text SIL about something, and then she brings that topic up with SIL at a later date. If he hasn't texted his sister about that she finds out and comes back to him asking why he didn't text when she told him to. That is just one example of the type of monitoring/managing she's been doing. She also uses guilt to try and get us to reach out more frequently to SIL.

My SIL and her husband rarely respond to any messages or gifts we send, and they don't ever reach out to us. This has been the way it is for years. When we're all together things are friendly and light, but that happens infrequently since we live in different parts of the country. I believe that my SIL and her husband basically like us, but they are probably pretty self-absorbed people who are wrapped up in their own lives, and they don't like us enough to make time for us when we're not physically together. I've basically made peace with that, until MIL has started to try and orchestrate a relationship between her adult children. This is adding a lot of stress to our lives, and I don't think it's making the relationship better.

Have other people had experiences with parents or parents-in-law trying to control relationships between adult siblings? I have been looking for information on this topic but haven't found anything all that helpful. [/quote]

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