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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I used to go about every other day, partly to normalize not being there every day in case I had work travel. I tried to vary my hours so the staff wouldn’t know when I’d show up. Sometimes went multiple times a day. [/quote]
This is so important. No matter how nice the facility seems you never know. It only takes one bad person. I started helping my mother take care of elders when I was a teen, and once absolute certainty is that people with frequent and unpredictable visitors get the best care. It's helpful if you have a backbench as well. If this doesn't exist naturally in your family, reach out to your networks and ask for help, or consider paying a reliable college or grad student to do occasional visits.

Don't limit visits to force her to "acclimate." She's not a kid going to summer camp and learning to be independent. She's an adult who is losing independence, and she's expressed her fear of losing you. Cutting off visits now will only exacerbate her fear and sadness.[/quote]

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