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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The bottom line is that you must not prioritize an older parent, however evil that sounds. You prioritize yourself, your children, your spouse, your work, and whatever that's left over, you give to your elder.

My MIL is patient and kind-hearted, and her oldest son, who lives near her and helps her with daily living and medical appointments, is generous and helpful. And yet he has become her target for constant criticism, because familiarity breeds contempt. They each complain about the other to anyone who will listen. My husband, who lives across the ocean on a different continent, manages her finances from afar and tops off what she lacks with our money... is treated as the golden child. It's unfair, and we can all see it!

I've learned my lesson just watching how she interacts with my oldest BIL. I will never welcome an in-law or parent into my home, ever. Even the most pleasant person can turn into a terror when they're old enough. And unfortunately, my parents, who don't yet need my help, are already way more difficult than she is...

There's no win-win here. The mission is to find the least worse win-lose, and try to avoid the lose-lose.

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She doesn’t sound patient and kind-hearted. At all.[/quote]

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