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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dd plays soccer on a top club team in the DMV area. She absolutely loves the game and has been passionate and talented since she was U9. On the field, she’s focused, skilled, and determined. But off the field, she really struggles with confidence—especially in social situations.

She can train and play with the same teammates for an entire year without forming close friendships or even having meaningful conversations. It’s hard for us to watch because she often seems down or disconnected when she’s around other girls. She’s also a people-pleaser and very quiet, so she never speaks up for herself—even when others are mean to her. It’s like she bottles everything up, and over time it feels like it’s affecting her more and more.

We’re proud of her dedication and love for the game, but we’re worried that this lack of confidence in everyday life is holding her back. How can we support her in becoming more confident and self-assured outside of soccer?[/quote]

I've seen this with some of my daughters teammates, but I think the parents drove the kids down the path.  Girls train and train and train to the point of ridiculous.  They gain all of their confidence from the coaches and trainers that their parents are PAYING telling them how amazing they are and if they keep working the top ACC school is coming for them.  I can't even imagine how much money was spent.  Once they get outside of the soccer bubble it's hard.  Talented players sure, unfortunately, there are thousands of good girls out there.  Injuries set in and soccer is put on hold which is almost UNAVOIDABLE.  The injuries or the reality of how hard it is to "make" it is where the rubber meets the road.  Being forced to open up to other things in life ended up being very good for some girls...a few others are still grinding and finding very little success.  Reality is a bear, you should prepare for it now if you can change the focus to be more rounded.  It's not easy I'm sure.[/quote]

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