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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, this behavior is suprisingly common in your 30s and 40s. A lot of people are primarily looking to position themselves and their families well socially and financially, not to form real friendships or connect with people in a vulnerable or emotional way. I also learned this the hard way.

But now you know. She's a user, let her go. She's already let you go now that she's gotten what she wanted out of you, which was the connection to the prominent person.

Though I will say this: when this happened to me in my early 30s with a "friend" who used me to gain access to my longtime friend group (which includes some people who are well connected), I let go of the fake friend but fought for my friend group and won. And I'm still friends with those people (who I would never use for social or career benefit but care about as people who I have known since long before they had anything to offer in that respect) and the fake friend is not. In fact, that group is incredibly close now because we wound up doing a bubble during Covid and became surrogate family. I don't know what the fake friend did during Covid and I don't care, because she's a user and I never see her anymore.

Stick to your values, protect your friendships that are meaningful to you, and ignore the noise of people just trying to social climb or use others to advance themselves. You can't lose that way because you will have prioritized what really matters and you will be surrounded by people who do the same.[/quote]

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