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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same, girl, same.

We moved from DC to the suburbs and no one blinked an eye. [/quote]

What had helped? Being appreciative of the one-on-one friendships I have found even if they are not the deepest, not giving up on making new friends, trying to be more neighborly, keeping in better touch with long distance family and friends. [/quote]

+1 to all of this.

Identify acquaintances and casual friends that you actually feel like you have something in common with and have chemistry with. Take steps to elevate them to the next round of friendship. Suggest a coffee date or walk once in a while, text periodically when you come across things that might interest them or have things going on in your life to talk about. Actively try to build a connection. If you do actively try and people don’t seem receptive, move along to the next person.

Focus on people that have availability in their life for a new friend… like maybe a neighbor who is also new to the area and in the phase of life where they’re trying to meet people (not the one with tons of extended family in the area who also grew up here, so have a ton of high school friends close by).

You might have luck with transplants/expats/the international crowd. With this group, you could even invite them to something like Thanksgiving if you don’t have a lot of family coming yourself, as they might not really have anyone else to spend that type of a holiday with and would welcome your invitation.

Focus on one on one friendships and less on a group or circle.

If you make a mom friend at a certain place and then you guys both switched schools, be intentional about keeping in touch and getting together occasionally. A lot of times these friendships do have the potential to be maintained, and even become stronger, but it’s easy to let them fade away because everyone is busy.

Also, making an effort and keeping in touch with long distance friends either via text or phone calls once in a while or both is great. Same goes for local friends who then move away or move to the suburbs.

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