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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old is she?

I think if you try to "prohibit" her or constantly second-guess her choices, she will stop giving you as much information. You might be happier that way.[/quote]

She is 18. I would say I am a reasonable person who doesn't really "prohibit" much. I try to mitigate risk generally with still giving her freedom. But mitigating risk is a lot of mental work because I am constantly weighing whether something is right or wrong and feeling very invested. Like right now I am majorly overthinking this: What if I don't put my foot down and something terrible happens? Is it right for me to tell her not to stay there when it's her money and anywhere else will be more expensive? Maybe this neighborhood is not *that* bad? Will it impact her vacation to be in a neighborhood where she doesn't feel safe? [/quote]
When she says, "Mom, what do you think of this hotel?" You say something like, "Check the reviews and make sure the area is safe.  Check the cost of parking too--sometimes they gouge you on that."  Then you let her do it.  You don't do the checking for her.  She's an adult.[/quote]

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