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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is a natural progression. The involvement in your kids’ life at school changes dramatically in middle school. And that’s good for your kids! Time for them to gain independence & get out there. A little sad for us parents, though. I did grieve the days that you mention, volunteering in school & at activities. Rather than try to get more involved now (which your dc will not want), I’d channel your energies into what you want to do. You enjoyed that part of life, now what would you like to enjoy in the next phase? 
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That’s good advice. Maybe this is dumb, but there have been some years when the there are groups of parents of older kids who everyone looks up to and who do a good job of staying connected and being seen as leaders in the parent community. Our cohort is probably less cohesive because there are a ton of siblings. The parents seem split between identifying more with the younger siblings’ grade or the older siblings’ grade, and so its role in the school is a bit diminished.

I think what I’m also feeling is that my kid ended up by their choice on the fringes of the school community and chose a really intense activity outside of school. It sort of shut me out of the school activities that kept some parents connected.

I’ve always been on the outside of institutions and communities I’ve been an official part of and I tried to invest differently in this particular school community. I’m kicking myself for not doing a better job of it. Lots to unpack here so thank you for prompting a free self-therapy insomnia session.[/quote]

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