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[quote=Anonymous]I'm an extrovert and my husband is an introvert. I think that when we met, he was excited about my big group of friends and I was intrigued by his quiet nature. I am still totally find with him being an introvert--I never demand that he socialize with me, and I totally support him in all of his solo hobbies like running and meditation.

On the other hand, he now hates that I'm an extrovert and often criticizes me about how much I talk with friends. One theme is that he doesn't want me to share anything about him with my friends.  I get that, and have completely stopped sharing anything personal....but now he says that he doesn't feel comfortable with me sharing any information that relates to him whatsoever.  He hates when we go out to dinner with a couple and one person says, "Larlo--Larla told me that you have a new job.  How's it going?"  He doesn't want me to share even basic facts--e.g. he had a business trip last week, or he's training for a race or whatever.  I do my best, but it's awkward to never talk about him at all.  When people ask me how he's doing, it feels rude to not share a few neutral/positive things.

Another theme is that I can never EVER ask him to socialize unless he initiates it. We used to throw dinner parties fairly frequently, and we had a nice vibe--he likes to cook, so he got to be in the kitchen for a lot of the night, just chatting when he felt like it, and he said he liked watching me entertain.  Now he's said that he hates dinner parties, so I've completely given up entertaining.  I also used to love having out of town guests a few times a year, but now that makes him grumpy too, so I've lost touch with a bunch of friends who used to stay with us occasionally.

Are we doomed?

Mostly, it feels like he's over our marriage and not into me, and he's just picking fights about my social life to try to get me to leave him.  We have a kid and I REALLY don't want to ruin her childhood, so I'm OK with putting up with a lot of crap.  But it feels like he's constantly annoyed at me or barely tolerating me.[/quote]

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