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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've never seen that with LGBTQ+. I've seen it with psychiatric disorders (autism, ADHD, anxiety, depression, etc), and in those situations there are, in certain cases, accommodations to make. But I agree you cannot use a label as a Get Out of Jail Free card.[/quote]

I've also seen it in the disability community. While it probably sounds somewhat ableist, it seems to happen much more with invisible disabilities than physical/obvious disabilities. As an obviously-disabled person (who can barely pass as a normie on the very best of days, for a very limited time), it's really frustrating to see people who can do more expecting to get away with less and using their disability as some kind of pass. Same as the alphabet poster. I already face scrutiny for being queer. I don't want people to think being queer means I'm going to be a jerk and expect to get away with it.[/quote]

NP. I see this quite a bit in disability. In particular I have personal experience with abusers using the language of disability advocacy to justify abuse. I have a friend whose husband was physically abusive but claimed that it was his disabilities that made him abusive. She is a healthcare worker prone to compassion and put up with horrific abuse because she had been trained to essentially accept terrible behavior because of disability. He is disabled, but he is also an abuser.

He threatened to kill her with an axe, and used that axe to smash all the family photos in the house when he had one of his rages. And he claimed that it was his disability that caused it, so she was being ableist in fleeing. “In sickness and in health, and I am sick.”[/quote]

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