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[quote=Anonymous]I am guessing  the PPs are not adoptive parents and have never lived in VA beyond the NOVA area.

OP - racism in Richmond and southern VA is real and still blatant.  I lived in southern VA and it was shocking to me as someone who grew up in the DC area that the level of racism would be tolerated.  I would have serious hesitations moving there.  My child is AA and we have considered moving to south - but farther south - and I have the same exact reservations.

The wait for a Caucasian infant girl who is mostly healthy will be a longer wait. Adopting a Hispanic child is very difficult because they are placed less often.  Adopting an AA child would be a shorter wait but you really need to decide if you are truly comfortable with this. You don't need to be. It does not make you racist or a bad person.

Also, I wouldn't broach the topic with AA friends unless they are truly very close friends and you can speak frankly with them.  Ask what challenges they have faced and feel they will face with raising their child. Also, be open and if they describe episodes of racism they have experienced don't automatically try and make it not true.  I have discovered it's the subtle racism that is the worst to deal with.

good luck[/quote]

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