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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think it's possible. I also had a good relationship with dad (with whom I was similar by personality), but not with mom, with whom the s* pretty much hit the fan by my teenage years. Once, 25 years ago, I sat them both down and "had a talk", the result of it was that mom denied everything (in fact I was the horrible one) and dad pretty much said he's not getting involved. At that point I realized that both of them get something out of it (as a parent myself now, with teenagers, there's no way I would not get involved if their dad did even 1/10 of what my mom did). Long story short, the older they got, the more mom started to dominate the conversation and our interaction, and dad kind of gave up. We Facetimed and as you say, she pretty much forced dad out of the picture by sticking her face into the screen or told him to go get something from the kitchen and so-on. Dad was always in better health and I was hoping he'll outlive her, but he passed away during Covid. My relationship with mom blew up after I tried to dance her dance for the next 2 years and now I'm only in touch on holidays and birthdays. She's not interested in my kids at all (and as they're not conditioned, they don't get "hooked") the same as she was never interested in me. As you say about your fake interaction, I also in the end felt like I'm performing in some scripted performance where she's the queen and I'm the servant/audience, where the play was a complete tragedy with her as the suffering victim protagonist. Unfortunately the play is still ongoing, only the audience has left. [/quote]

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