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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dad went to Andover for junior and senior years.  A lot of his high school classmates became famous.  A president, a Nobel Prize winner, and a top military diplomat.   That said...my dad was a scholarship kid and didn't continue friendships with these elite people after prep school.  He did go to an Ivy.

I considered going to prep school as an 8th grader.  My cousin was going to Foxcroft at the time. Paid for by her grandma who was an Abbott grad.

I considered boarding school and decided it was profoundly socially odd to live away from your parents during your teen years.  And that one can follow one's intellectual interests whereever one is.  Also rich kids everywhere get into drugs. (Or at least that's what I heard from my peers who prepped.)  I dislike substance abuse/people who get high.

That said, I never had a sport that required fine facilities to master.

This isn't an irrevocable decision.  Ask your son to continue with the plan for one year and commit to keeping his grades high.  If he doesn't like it, let him complete at the current school (hopefully it would be possible to accept him back)?[/quote]

OP here: Yes, I went to Exeter (Andover’s rival), and my partner went to Groton, each have a pretty good alumni network. We both went to ivies, as well. I was sent to exeter in part because of generational stuff, as was my partner, and by the time i was there (late 00s), it was entirely different from the time my grandpa and dad went. Still rich kids, for sure, but it’s needs-blind now - if you’re smart enough to get in and can’t afford it, the school covers all costs. i did grade school at trinity, my partner at Dalton. It’s a counterfactual, but I’m not sure I would have loved Trinity for high school, but our other child graduated from Dalton and LOVED it.

For us, boarding school is the norm and I still think it’s a really great, unique way to experience high school. I didn’t appreciate it at the time, but looking back on it, I realize how lucky I was/am to have had the privilege of going.

In terms of substance abuse, I’m afraid at any school in manhattan and many private schools, it’s always going to be around. The best a parent can really hope for - at least to us - is the better judgment of your kids and a healthy way to set boundaries and contain it.[/quote]

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