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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid, who is also super sarcastic and a bit of a moody loner, is stereotyped by other children as the likely next school shooter. Kids joke about it.  They reported him to the counselors, etc.

He is a bit non-conformist and verbally mean.  Other kids that think they are sweet, and wonderful, and caring have actually been sabotaging little jerks.

He is usually cheerful at home and we have no risk factors.  He hated middle school but high school is much better because there is finally lots of tracking for the brighter and harder working students.

So I'm aware that people feel that my kid is the mean kid but I know for sure that it's not all his personality.

I used to tell people just to leave him alone.  No counseling, no jollying, no calling on, no rearranging seats.  Just let the bear rest in his cage (school) and there will be no verbal paw swipes.

It's been funny to me to see the outcomes of the "nice
kids" who caused my son problems.  They have lost popularity in high school.  And one came to realize he falsely overstated my son's issues and caused him real problems.  That kid expressed guilt.  Good.[/quote]

You really need to get your child evaluated. His profile is not normal, but it doesn't mean he's the next school shooter. You recognize that there could be a millions issues that could be treated between "normal" and "school shooter"?

My guess, just from your description, is that he's autistic and therefore asocial with anxiety. My son has autism, I am well aware of the more classic traits of autism. And no, not every autistic kid becomes a shooter. But you might want to do something to help him before it gets worse. He's not going to network professionally, or get married and have a family, with his current traits. He needs support. There are social skills groups he could try and meds for anxiety (or meds for inattentive ADHD if he also has that), there's cognitive behavioral therapy or ABA if he's younger, to help him gauge what kind of proportional response he should give in social situations... lots of science-based approaches that have proved helpful to such profiles over the years.

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