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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure this is the right forum, but i'm getting super anxious about my kid leaving for college this fall. We're very close and spend at least a little time together every day-- several days a week we're together from after work/ school all the way to bedtime. Just watching TV or chatting or cooking together. (She has her own life with extra curriculars and friends but she has always chosen to include time with me, too.) I don't intend to text/ call constantly. She needs to grow into her own self.

So... what am I going to do with myself?

-- I've gone through a bunch of hobbies, but I don't want to fill my house with paint and yarn and gear, all to produce amateur crafts I don't want. And I'm not generally creative/ artsy. 
-- I read a ton, about as much as my eyesight can handle after a day a computer. 
-- I don't really care for TV; maybe one series at a time, and not all the time. 
--[b] I have friends, but they have lives and I don't want to saddle them with my neediness[/b]. And anyway, what do you DO other than walks and dinners? 
-- My job is pretty strictly M-F, 9-5. I've found that volunteering is hard with an office schedule. And DC is a place where people seem to [i]compete[/i] to volunteer. I've tried several times and found that even scheduling a shift (!) was hit-or-miss and just a lot like work. And my career is in the non-profit space anyway.

Save your tough love (meanness) please. I feel a bad place on the horizon and don't need to feel worse. Sincerely looking for some helpful thoughts for keeping busy and maybe even to grow a bit. [/quote]
Find more friends who have time and who want to spend time together. I have 2 close friends, but they were always busy and I see them maybe once a month. I decided I want more friends. I joined a monthly book club, meetup and joined 2 hiking, 1 tennis and a social group, and I joined a hiking group through FB. I now have more friends and activities than I have tine. My kids are still young, but I want well vetted friends for when they leave. I made friends who are my age, younger and older. It is great. About 5 of them have become close friends.[/quote]

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