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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, I would keep doing what you are doing, but generally let it go. She will find her way.

What extracurriculars are the other girls doing? Anything that DD would be interested in?

Also what are the girls doing over the summer? Any camps or certain programs etc? That would be normal & not weird to bring up with the other moms when see you them after school- especially since you are new to the area and might be looking for recs.

You are actually almost to the age where the “mom directed” friendships start coming to an end, and the girls start planning things/directing things a bit more themselves. And choosing their friends. The mom centered groups all start breaking up/reconfiguring in the next year or two IME (often creating some drama, and awkward situations) [/quote]

Thanks for the response.  I really do just need to let it go.  The girls do all different extracurriculars, we can sign DD up for some of the on-campus ones next school year (she didn't want to this school year) and she will be with some of the girls.  I can and should ask about summer camp.  I know the girls are all going to the same one, but have no idea which weeks or classes.

I agree with you about mom-directed friendships coming to an end around this age, BUT this group is really different.  The parents are all very good friends and many of them travel together, get together on the weekends etc.  I feel if you are already friends with someone, and have more opportunities to hang out, make memories together by traveling, you will end up being closer to that person than with someone with whom you don't have those opportunities.  [/quote]

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