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[quote=Anonymous]OP here - my DS does not really do physical.  He likes to bake so we have talked about maybe working at or owning a bakery, but that feels very intimidating to him. But fixing things with his hands, not his thing.

He says he likes his school so he is not looking to pull out and go to community college.  I could ask him although I think he would see it as just trading schools.  He is quite bright so it is not the mastery of the topic (meaning the problem will be the same at all schools).  He will just forget something, or write something wrong in his notes or get confused and then completely second guess himself on the test.  When he was studying for the SAT, he could consistently score a 1560 with the tutor, but would freeze during the test, then get a series of questions wrong in one math section (and get 100% on the other).  Then he would take it again, and do the same thing, but swapping sections.  The tutor said it was an anxiety issue so best to find a score to be happy with rather than stress him and take it again.

I am thinking one of the PPs is right - focus on the mental and everything else will follow.  But it is a hard loop to not be depressed when you are studying hard and then keep tanking tests (so his grade starts off good then crashes at the midterm then he spends the rest of the time getting it back up and then see how far down it goes again on the final).

He doesn't want to take a break and the therapist has said that it is best for his mental health to stay on campus.  Me and his father just divorced and his father can be toxic.  They are working on setting boundaries so the therapist thinks that staying on campus and away from pressure to stay with his dad or fall into old video game habits is best.

Just hoping it works out post college because I am just worried about the dip.  He goes to UMD - I have to imagine there are plenty of kids without As who do fine. [/quote]

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