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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][size=7] [/size][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]... why does she need a photo to post a college decision????

I mean, that's really the glaring hole in the plot here.

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That’s not the point. The point is she constantly is like this and hypercritical. She should not not post bc she hates how she looks. [/quote]

There are two issues here. You need to separate them, so that she doesn't regret not posting her college decision. Encourage her to post without a photo.

The other issue is her thought process on how she looks. At her age, so many teens don't like how they look. It's not rational, but it's very normal. I was like this too, except that social media didn't exist and so I wasn't under maximal pressure to exhibit myself. I could just internally deplore my looks without anyone being the wiser! Social media and its emphasis on appearance is TOXIC for girls who need a few more years to feel better about themselves, OP. Why on earth would you add to her distress by adding to the already highly damaging levels of pressure?

None of these girls "need" to post pics (or post at all, really). My teen son didn't use social media as a high school senior, and my teen daughter, who is 14, doesn't use it either - she might change her mind later, but I'm certainly not pushing her in that direction. Girls in particular are entirely overexposed on social media, and a lot are encouraged to post more and more revealing photos by random men who compliment them - under the tutelage of their mothers, sometimes. Please don't be that mother.

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Wow, you just made a big movie in your head. I don’t care if she posts, I’m not some influencer mom. And I don’t post my kids ever online, just share privately with grandparents. My issue is that she WANTS to post but will not bc she hates how she looks and it is irrational. Nobody posts without a photo so that would be odd, and obviously this is not a girl thing: boys and girls are posting these. She was the same about her sports banner (something every senior does) and talked endlessly about how bad the pic was while it is great.[/quote]

NP. It’s like you completely missed everything the PP wrote. You are dumb.[/quote]

I am not interested in the point given the person making it.[/quote]

The person you don't know? Why even bother creating a thread, then, if you only want to hear your own beliefs parroted back to you, instead of listening to others? Better speak in front of a mirror.

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