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[quote=Anonymous]Mom of twins here...who underwent years of fertility treatment and finally was so fortunate, when our third IVF attempt worked.

I hated the questions...I don't care what place in their heart, mind or experience they were generated.  I don't care their intent, just making chit-chat...or delving inappropriately into my medical history.  I hated it.

But...after some time, I have realized that 'hiding' the truth of our medical care has gotten more and more difficult, and frankly, I am tired of running defense about all of it at this point (my toddlers are 3.5 years old).  And honestly, it all matters less and less to me how they got here, because I am overwhelmed by how much I adore them, and am thankful (less ashamed?) for the medical treatment that I was fortunate to receive, to get them here.  I hate to admit, other than a few family members who might have had 'religious' objections to my using IVF, all the hang-ups about using IVF were probably mine, not anyone else's.

It is difficult, when you are pregnant, dealing with such invasive kind of questions...you are still raw from dealing with all the interventions...the emotional ups and downs of the hormones and the treatments...and now on top of it, dealing with the pregnancy.  Deal with it as it comes...

Have some snappy quips for people on the street that you don't know...and have some quiet, gentle responses for older grandmas or aunts that are just thrilled about your pregnancy, and want to be immersed in it and the happiness it brings them.

You also have to be prepared for a lot of attention (some unwanted and downright RUDE) once they are born. At one point, some stranger walked up to us and pushed me out of the way to get to my baby!

All I can tell you, is that it dies down as they get older...and the comments get less and less...and pretty soon (and this all happened by the time they turned three!) the only ones who want to talk to you about it are other parents of multiples.  I sometimes forget the uniqueness (still) of having multiples.  To me they are just my two, VERY different kids, who happened to be born on the same day.

My generic response, now, is something like..."We worked really hard and long to bring them into this world (people just assume the pregnancy was tough--they rarely assume that we mean BEFORE pregnancy)...we are extremely blessed to have them, and they obviously are our world."[/quote]

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