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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I worked with a communication coach on how to speak up, have boundaries, and say no.

Example: yesterday I was WFH and H popped in to ask if I wanted him to make me lunch. I said sure. He then kept popping in and out to ask me what I wanted, what we have, do we have XYZ ingredients, etc.

VERY distracting and irritating since I don’t like to be interrupted while working.

I told him that I wanted him to take full ownership of this task and see it through by himself, because if I had to carry the mental burden of stopping work to tell him how to make a lunch, I would rather just order DoorDash or make something myself.

He huffed and said “fine I just won’t make anything” but 10 minutes later walked in with a burger.

He’s fully capable of figuring things out, he just doesn’t when I’m easily accessible and will answer him or help him out. So I just don’t. [/quote]

I think we are married to the same man. 
OP, I have not perfected this so am learning along with you. Since i earn double what he earns, I started outsourcing a lot and he didn't like that/wanted to save money. He doesn't like it but he doesn't do it so it doesn't get done.

Last week, on the two days he worked from home, I sent him a couple of messages to do three very simple things. He did them. I'm also working late on two of the days when he works from home so he has to make dinner and then I refuse to clean up b/c I'm like a single parent in the morning. He's there...looking at a screen. Not making breakfasts or lunches.

In fact, I think he does less now. [/quote]

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